Lets have a real talk, the one that most Mothers are ashamed to have, postpardum. Postpartum depression exists but why don’t we talk about it? Between 12% – 20% of first time mothers experience postpartum depression after giving birth.
Let’s define this depression we never seem to hear about. Postpardum is the type of depression experienced after child birth. It can start any time during your baby’s first year but it’s most common for you to start to feel its effects during the first 3 weeks.
If you happen to be a Mother who experiences this depression you might feel sad, hopeless or guilty because you may not feel like you want to bond with, or care for, your baby.
One of the major causes of Postpardum is Hormones – your hormone levels rise when you’re pregnant and after your baby is born they suddenly drop. This quick change can trigger depression in some women. If you ever feel moody before you get your period, you know how hormones can affect you.
I come from a culture where you are raised to believe that depression doesn’t exist. If you feel sad or depressed it means you are being ungrateful. After giving birth to my own baby boy I came to understand how a woman can come to experience this depression. Fortunatly I was blessed with a good support system at home and my hubby would listen to my thoughts and feelings regardless of how crazy or mundane they were. I would recommend this strategy to all new Mothers 🙂
So for anyone without kids yet, I’m going to let the cat out of the bag. The first few weeks of motherhood is hard! It’s so important to own your feelings, cry if you need to (I sure did) and just don’t allow any negative feelings to stick around for long. And most important, don’t be ashamed to speak up, you are not alone. Talk to someone or seek professional help. Postpardum is not something you have to do alone.